What matters is what happens before and after, in relationship, in community, in real life. It feels bizarre to see ketamine splashed across newspapers as a problem while I’m watching it change people’s lives here in my office. I never want to minimize the real dangers. And it’s still frustrating to hear it spoken like a four letter word or a cheap shot to make us feel more powerful against abusive leaders or out of touch elites. In fact, it hurts. It’s as if using a story ab

Recognizing that belonging is not something you earn through speed or certainty, but by trusting yourself. For many queer people, coming into identity does not happen early, clearly, or all at once. There is a story we are often told about queerness that centers early knowing, bold coming out moments, and a sense of certainty that appears almost fully formed. When your own experience does not match that story, it can be easy to feel behind, out of place, or quietly unsure of