Recognizing that belonging is not something you earn through speed or certainty, but by trusting yourself. For many queer people, coming into identity does not happen early, clearly, or all at once. There is a story we are often told about queerness that centers early knowing, bold coming out moments, and a sense of certainty that appears almost fully formed. When your own experience does not match that story, it can be easy to feel behind, out of place, or quietly unsure of